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November 12
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The first secret - the power of thought.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider his or her needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize her when you meet her.
The second secret - the power of respect.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect, ask yourself. What do I respect about myself? To gain respect for others,even those you may dislike, ask yourself. What do I respect about them?
The third secret - the power of giving.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.
The fourth secret - the power of friendship.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other’s eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love him or her for who they are and not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love’s seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.
The fifth secret - the power of touch.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
The sixth secret - the power of letting go.
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their nown space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life.
The seventh secret - the power of communication.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: I Love You. Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see him or her. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and…why are you waiting?
The eighth secret - the power of commitment.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
The ninth secret - the power of passion.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences. When you felt passionate spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The Essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.
The tenth secret - the power of trust.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust him or her completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself. Do I trust them completely and unreservedly? If the answer is no, think carefully before making a commitment.
Relationship is a very fragile thing. If you didn't handle properly it will be broken and once broken it is so difficult to amend back. If either one decided to give up, that's it… the whole thing will fall down just like that. If either one chose to give in, the other will take. It's always give & take. The same goes to any ship (loves… friends... marriage… family… colleague… work)
Strong foundation is the most important thing. Foundation is built-up by 5 main things: trust, love, care, respect and understanding.To build strong foundation, communication is vital for common understanding to have strong trust and bond. Communication should be an "on-going activity". If the foundation is so strong, nothing can come and break it. It is like a foundation of the building is strong, whatever strong wind or heavy rain cannot tear the building apart. However once in a while, maintenance is needed for the foundation. If the foundation of the building is left unattended for a very long time, crack, dent, bits and pieces will come off. And when this happens for a long time, the whole building will shake. If still continue to be ignored, the whole building will crumble down. But if the shaking building is being detected, both need to participate and put lots & lots of effort to patch up the foundation. One person cannot hold on to the shaken building.
Communication makes us understand each other better. Yes sometimes it's very hurt to listen to the other party to accuse, grumble & complain about you. But in long run, the relationship will prolong and be beautified. No one is perfect. If the other party is always impatient, refused to listen and got agitated when the other person tries to voice out, it will be like shutting down the other person. All the dissatisfactions will be piled up and finally when there is no more space for "patience" to be in place, all the -ve things will push themselves out and bad things happen. Explosion! But of course using the right approach to tell how you feel and what the concerns are is also important. The key word, use the right approach. You cannot be forcing the other person to listen to watever you want to complain and expect him / her to just listen and accept. All humans have ego and they won't just say, yes you are right, I am a b*stard. No way!
Trust and respect. By trusting the other person, you can fully let go everything and just rely on them. This also indirectly gives the respect. Their ego is being boost-up and they feel good. But if you keep on suspecting and not trusting, you want to take control. Then you force them to listen to you, do things your way and following your orders. End up? Yes, other party will feel be taken for granted, no respect and feel to be ordered to do things which are NOT the way that both of you have agreed. This leads back to communication.
But no matter what, I believe everything can be solved if one party chose to give-in and talk things out. The most important thing for a relationship is not what is the root cause, but it is how to save the relationship. If the relationship is not important then you don't even need to talk, don't even need to know the root cause, just end it. But if one decided or chose to give in, then the other party will also lower down and be nice by naturally. It is always like that. Ego. You can choose to be anything you want to be or whatever conclusion you want... but making the right decision without being interfere by Mr. Ego is tough.
***********************************取自某某部落格*************************************** April 28
朋友，
直到爱消失你才懂得
去珍惜身边每个
美好风景
只是她早已离去
直到你想通她早已经
不再对你留恋
最后的你
开始了一段挣扎
你那么爱她
为甚么不把她留下
为甚么不说心里话
你深爱她
这是每个人都知道啊
你那么爱她
为甚么不把她留下
是不是你有深爱的
两个她
所以你不想再让自己
无法自拔
祝福你了 February 01 祝大家：
鼠年快乐
心想事成
大吉大利
身体健康
工作顺利
横财就手
财源广进
事事顺意
出入平安
新年进步 January 24
你不要我了
我们比以前安静
到底谁在逃避
爱你不是我的错觉
怎么拥有成了我的亏欠
当初我们坚定的说要在一起
什么原因可能都己忘记
我的莫名此时此刻如梦初醒
原来你早己决定要离去
当你冷冷的手抽离我的掌心
轻轻的将我遗弃
看着你的背影我握住空虚
让风吹散我心碎的叹息
你说想停了感情不能再勉强了
可是难免有很多分岔口你不懂
就算有点涟漪
你也不要我了
P/S: 愿所有被抛弃的人可以像我一样得到幸福
November 12
离开了一个多月，她…要回来了；就在正正的两个月那一天，十一点四十五分抵达新加坡…两个月，没有那好朋友在身边，开始时有点开心，因为少了一个烦人的她；是的，她是很烦人的，总是要有人注意，有人听她说话，像个小孩子般…就像现在远在他乡的她还会发简讯来问及为何我的部落格没有关于她的消息，真是让人又好气又好笑。
近来生活有些烦恼，身体也一直在生病。听到她要回来的消息，好开心，忽然好想快些见到她。去接机吗？再看吧，已经有很多人会去，就像她要离开时那样，最后的一个多星期，排得满满的，每一天都有不同的人为她办欢送会。像个小孩子般，她很多人疼，很多人爱…
回来的她，会是一个很不一样的她吧？成熟了？愿她还是会像个小孩子般，天真、快乐，当然也少不了成熟、懂事。《很幸福》送给她……
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