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    November 12

    Relationship （感情）

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    The first secret - the power of thought.
    Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider his or her needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize her when you meet her.

    The second secret - the power of respect.

    You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect, ask yourself. What do I respect about myself? To gain respect for others,even those you may dislike, ask yourself. What do I respect about them?

    The third secret - the power of giving.

    If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

    The fourth secret - the power of friendship.

    To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other’s eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love him or her for who they are and not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love’s seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

    The fifth secret - the power of touch.

    Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.

    The sixth secret - the power of letting go.

    If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their nown space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life.

    The seventh secret - the power of communication.

    When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: I Love You. Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see him or her. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and…why are you waiting?

    The eighth secret - the power of commitment.

    If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

    The ninth secret - the power of passion.
    Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences. When you felt passionate spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The Essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

    The tenth secret - the power of trust.

    Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust him or her completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself. Do I trust them completely and unreservedly? If the answer is no, think carefully before making a commitment.

    Relationship is a very fragile thing. If you didn't handle properly it will be broken and once broken it is so difficult to amend back. If either one decided to give up, that's it… the whole thing will fall down just like that. If either one chose to give in, the other will

     take. It's always give & take. The same goes to any ship (loves… friends... marriage… family… colleague… work)

    Strong

     foundation is the most important thing. Foundation is built-up by 5 main things: trust, love, care, respect and understanding.To build strong foundation, communication is vital for common understanding to have strong trust and bond. Communication should be an "on-going activity". If the foundation is so strong, nothing can come and break it. It is like a foundation of the building is strong, whatever strong wind or heavy rain cannot tear the building apart. However once in a while, maintenance is needed for the foundation. If the foundation of the building is left unattended for a very long time, crack, dent, bits and pieces will come off. And when this happens for a long time, the whole building will shake. If still continue to be ignored, the whole building will crumble down. But if the shaking building is being detected, both need to participate and put lots & lots of effort to patch up the foundation. One person cannot hold on to the shaken building.

    Communication makes us understand each other better. Yes sometimes it's very hurt to listen to the other party to accuse, grumble & complain about you. But in long run, the relationship will prolong and be beautified. No one is perfect. If the other party

     is always impatient, refused to listen and got agitated when the other person tries to voice out, it will be like shutting down the other person. All the dissatisfactions will be piled up and finally when there is no more space for "patience" to be in place, all the -ve things will push themselves out and bad things happen. Explosion! But of course using the right approach to tell how you feel and what the concerns are is also important. The key word, use the right approach. You cannot be forcing the other person to listen to watever you want to complain and expect him / her to just listen and accept. All humans have ego and they won't just say, yes you are right, I am a b*stard. No way!

    Trust and respect. By trusting the other person, you can fully let go everything and just rely on them. This also indirectly gives the respect. Their ego is being boost-up and they feel good. But if you keep on suspecting and not trusting, you want to take control. Then you force them to listen to you, do things your way and following your orders. End up? Yes, other party will feel be taken for granted, no respect and feel to be ordered to do things which are NOT the way that both of you have agreed. This leads back to communication.

    But no matter what,

     I believe everything can be solved if one party chose to give-in and talk things out. The most important thing for a relationship is not what is the root cause, but it is how to save the relationship. If the relationship is not important then you don't even need to talk, don't even need to know the root cause, just end it. But if one decided or chose to give in, then the other party will also lower down and be nice by naturally. It is always like that. Ego. You can choose to be anything you want to be or whatever conclusion you want... but making the right decision without being interfere by Mr. Ego is tough.

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    April 28

    你那么爱她

     
    朋友，
    直到爱消失你才懂得
    去珍惜身边每个
    美好风景
    只是她早已离去
    直到你想通她早已经
    不再对你留恋
    最后的你
    开始了一段挣扎
    你那么爱她
    为甚么不把她留下
    为甚么不说心里话
    你深爱她
    这是每个人都知道啊
    你那么爱她
    为甚么不把她留下
    是不是你有深爱的
    两个她
    所以你不想再让自己
    无法自拔
    祝福你了
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    February 01

    新年来咯

    祝大家：
     
    鼠年快乐
    心想事成
    大吉大利
    身体健康
    工作顺利
    横财就手
    财源广进
    事事顺意
    出入平安
    新年进步
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    January 24

    Nice Song

     
    你不要我了
    我们比以前安静
    到底谁在逃避
    爱你不是我的错觉
    怎么拥有成了我的亏欠
    当初我们坚定的说要在一起
    什么原因可能都己忘记
    我的莫名此时此刻如梦初醒
    原来你早己决定要离去
    当你冷冷的手抽离我的掌心
    轻轻的将我遗弃
    看着你的背影我握住空虚
    让风吹散我心碎的叹息
    你说想停了感情不能再勉强了
    可是难免有很多分岔口你不懂
    就算有点涟漪
    你也不要我了

    P/S: 愿所有被抛弃的人可以像我一样得到幸福Smile


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    November 12

    她…要回来了

    离开了一个多月，她…要回来了；就在正正的两个月那一天，十一点四十五分抵达新加坡…两个月，没有那好朋友在身边，开始时有点开心，因为少了一个烦人的她；是的，她是很烦人的，总是要有人注意，有人听她说话，像个小孩子般…就像现在远在他乡的她还会发简讯来问及为何我的部落格没有关于她的消息，真是让人又好气又好笑。
     
    近来生活有些烦恼，身体也一直在生病。听到她要回来的消息，好开心，忽然好想快些见到她。去接机吗？再看吧，已经有很多人会去，就像她要离开时那样，最后的一个多星期，排得满满的，每一天都有不同的人为她办欢送会。像个小孩子般，她很多人疼，很多人爱…
     
    回来的她，会是一个很不一样的她吧？成熟了？愿她还是会像个小孩子般，天真、快乐，当然也少不了成熟、懂事。《很幸福》送给她……Smile
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    November 07

    脸黑黑

    有没有试过一整天在公司里什么都没做？因为该做的都做了，一些要做的又无法开始（其实也没什么重要的）；看着别人忙忙碌碌，好羡慕…自己只有无聊、闷~！几乎看了一整天的youtube，看完了还有些失落，心想，公司就算把自己解催了，也不会有损失…是时候找个新的方向出发了吧……Sarcastic
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    October 29

    可爱的梦龙

    改名了~！！为什么是这个呢？常称自己为CuTebLuR，现在的名是直接翻译…目前正在网上忙着寻找自己的照片（真糟糕，一张都没找着，已经找好几天了），是一只紫色的泡泡龙，Bobble Bubble Hero 2 四兄弟姐妹里的老幺…
    先介绍个大哥给大家认识认识，下图就是他向大家打招呼啦~！可爱吧？请大家期待我的照片哦，因为我更可爱！Red rose （天！一堵墙般厚的脸皮Tongue out。）
                                               bubble_bobble
     
    P/S: 解说 
              CuTe = 可爱                           bLuR = 朦胧 = 梦龙
    *好歹也要给自己一点面子，无法称得上美丽，就只好用可爱来形容自己（哈哈！）。
    *从小就是懵懵懂懂的，不叫朦胧，不知还有什么更恰当的形容词；梦龙与朦胧近音，想想自己还挺高大（威猛Sarcastic？），又爱发白日梦…
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    October 23

    生日快乐

    是他的生日   去年的今天   分开的我们   今年的这时   依然   分开的我们
    给他的礼物   删除的日记   愚蠢的尝试   笨蛋的想法   以为   结束的一切
    被弃的自己   伤心的自己   粉碎的自己   不解的自己   为他   愧疚的自己
    坚定的决择   回忆的抹掉   不管的过去   唯一的方法   切断   所有的关系
     
    依然是朋友……
    Birthday cake生日快乐Birthday cake
     
     
     
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    October 08

    有感而发

    昨天在回新加坡的巴士上偶然听到的一首旧歌，对它的歌词有着深深的体会和感触：

        When I was young
        I'd listen to the radio
        Waitin' for my favorite songs
        When they played I'd sing along
        It made me smile.

    小时候，总是守在收音机旁，尤其是每周一次，星期六的第五台龙虎榜…当时没零用钱，其实也没想过拥有任何卡带…当时的一切很简单，生活的目标除了考好成绩，没有别的了（由于好胜且不喜欢读书，考好成绩只是让自己爽一下^.^，但其实没什么机会，因为天知有限*.*）。容易快乐、容易满足、没什么复杂的事要想…小学六年，因为太调皮，被同学排斥，小三换了班，同样的事依然发生；自己其实并不怎么在乎，整件事最大的受害者，不是被欺负的小朋友，是面对老师唠叨的妈妈…小孩无知，罪总是落在大人们身上…尽管这么多事发生，依然是快乐、什么都不理会的笨蛋……

        Those were such happy times
        And not so long ago
        How I wondered where they'd gone

        But they're back again
        Just like a long lost friend
        All the songs I loved so well.

    最后三句其实并没有发生…长大的自己、童年玩伴，长辞的母亲、长辈、老师，已成熟的心智、思想，周围的一切不可能再倒带、从来…快乐的童年，确确实实在那里，只是要找回或从新体验那感觉，却是如此遥远的梦想…也许在梦里…梦里曾经出现那一幕、那种感觉，像是回到了从前；醒来时回想竟是如此虚假，更添加了一份悲伤。

        Lookin' back on how it was
        In years gone by
        And the good times that I had
        Makes today seem rather sad
        So much has changed.

    甜蜜的回忆，若结果非预料中那样，想起的感觉还是伤…以前调皮、任性，懂事后想争取机会弥补，却在母亲心脏跳动显示器变成一条直线的那一刻起，也跟着被埋葬了，只剩下一辈子遗憾。报恩？下辈子有缘的话…真的有下辈子吗？

        It was songs of love that
        I would sing to then
        And I'd memorize each word
        Those old melodies
        Still sound so good to me
        As they melt the years away. 

    依然很喜欢“遇见”这首歌，尽管那一段回忆已不再那么显著，那个人在心里、生活里，也已不再是最重要的那一个…

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    September 17

    痛…旧伤口

    很多回忆，若结果非想象中那样，再多甜蜜的过去，想起时也是苦涩的……
     
    再过两个星期姐姐就过来同住，房里的家私需移动，书架上收藏的书、点缀品、旧日历、笔记…一一都得拿下来，待书架从新安定在位置上，再把它们放回。收拾的过程中，偶然翻阅做毕业论文的笔记…一页一页、一字一句，都夹带着刻苦铭心的大学第四年，是最辛苦的一年；因为毕业论文、因为自己的水准不及教授要求、因为学长的严格；很忙很忙实验，甚至到考试前一天才开始复习。那一段日子，不知近乎崩溃多少次；那一段路，我们一起走过；彼此扶持，跌倒了再站起来…一个青白的文件夹，是一个青色和一个白色的文件夹拆开后，再以一面白、一面青的搭配组成两个，一人一个一样的文件夹；里面放了每一个学期的课程表，从第一年第一个学期到第四年第二个学期，一张一张，意味着相识、相知、相惜、相爱的过程，一起上课、学习、做实验、温习、谈天、说笑、玩乐的日子，一幕幕大学四年，喜怒哀乐总是有他在左右…毕业了，离开了校园，彼此也结束…
     
    过去的终究已经过去了，除了一阵叹息，已经不能再做些什么，已无力再做些什么…叹天意弄人，叹时间不合，叹现实总是残酷，叹世间从一开始就没有天长地久…
     
    已经好久没有他的消息，不知他过得好不好；已经没有权力再关心他的一切，只能默默的祈祷祝福他…还有他的家人…
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    August 04

    还是会想她

    我又为她哭了，虽然已经好久没有这样…和同事去ktv，大家一起唱着唱着很开心；夜深了，大伙儿都回了，因为家住得近，房间的时间又还没完，就和另外一位还没回的同事继续逗留在那里。点唱一曲好久没听的歌，“快乐天堂”，熟悉的前奏响起，我也随着音乐开始唱…电视荧幕上黄美诗穿着天使的白色衣服，旁边还有许多同龄的小孩，一样穿着类似的服装，手里各拿着一根点燃着的白色蜡烛，让人觉得祥和、平静…唱着唱着，思绪不知不觉回到当时和她一起，为幼稚园里的小朋友构思与编舞蹈的画面，我们说着、笑着、跳着、模拟着…就是这一首歌，最后的一支舞…我的声音止住了，眼眶湿了，鼻子酸了…超越我的掌控，我哭了…吓着身边的人，幸而他及时借出肩膀…哭了一阵，歌曲换了一首，节奏轻快，心情平静了…原来，我还是很想她。
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    July 27

    近来的我

    续上一个分享…后来，我们还是分开了，就在三个星期后。一次挽留，已无力再来一次。分开后的日子，是苦涩的。总是在一个人的时候，忍不住泪水，一些简单的问候简讯，一些有意无意泄气的话，可以把自己从最高点，直线抛下，跌入谷底，接下来就是淹水。曾经想过，那只是暂时，一段时间后，这段感情一定可以再续，我们可以回到原来，继续进行我们曾经梦想的生活，手牵手，步红毯，拥有一个属于我俩的家。这些梦想，像是一颗一颗飘扬在空中的彩色玻璃球；一封简讯挟持着几个字，“风景依旧在，人事已非，心境也不一样”…当这十五个字陆续被视觉传送入脑袋，所有的梦想，一字接一字，将玻璃球一颗颗打碎。曾经的誓言，守护者、相伴八十年、永不放弃…就在玻璃碎开的那一刻散掉，无影无踪。
     
    我…放弃一切期望，不想回头，不想再来，什么也不想…往新的方向出发。过去留下的，只要美好回忆。虽从不喜欢在别人面前展示自己脆弱的一面，但此刻的我真的坚强了:-)。
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    June 11

    我想我知道我不想知道的

    简讯一封接着一封，开始察觉到少了什么…是的，少了那些他专用的表情符号；两年前，这样的情况维持一个星期，直到我们见面，吃了晚餐，他说他开不了口，我了解他要说什么，幸运地，那个念头在相拥之后被打消…昨天，从家乡一直流泪到新加坡，他知道他让我伤心，他知道他不能做到，他知道我们彼此需要对方，他知道我们的差异，他知道…他知道的我也知道。但这一次，我是真的知道吗？我希望不是，我不想现在确定，我只能等，等今晚…等今晚他难得的主动邀约，等他说出…是我不想听的吗？
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    May 18

    很多很多东西要做，没时间

    已经在很忙很忙一样东东，大大他又在给一个，还说是商业上一个很重要的东东，欧洲一代的市场下跌完全是因为这个东东。其实，一直都知道中中他希望我可以学习一些管理与带领东东的知识，中中他说学成技能就会很好用了。无奈，大中他要一些小小帮他，还是说是什么优先东东，说服大大他射箭给小小我。唉，小小我只得接箭，高唱“我中了‘哀情’的箭…
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    April 04

    低落

    今天心情有些低落，因为工作上不顺利；每当这样，总会想买一些东西给宝贝们。午餐时间买了木屑给宝贝，说到宝贝，他们已经相续离我而去，昨天连宝宝也走了，只剩炎炎；宝宝对我来说很乐观，半年前，他已有部分身体瘫痪，一边眼睛是毕着的；走在斜坡不能平衡，总是滚着下去；但他不像贝贝，到外走走没两下子就休息睡觉，他总是最有活力，没回家不休息。前天看他不对劲，像是异常的弱，他的时间到了吧，我想…昨天就走了。像人一样，他们也会老，也会死……五、四、三、二、一…就这样一只一只得倒数。心里很难过，但还是祝福他们，希望他们会有更好的来世。身边的长辈，也一个接一个…前年、去年、刚过的…当很多很多事，在同一个短时间里发生，每一件很小的事，也会带来很大的影响…
     
    近来开始回去了，休息了三个月；想给自己一个机会，永远逃避不是办法吧…如果再不行，只能说没缘了。近来的一切，像是回到原点，同样的烦恼、同样的顾虑、同样的“盲路”、同样的健康状况…
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    February 16

    有感而发

    近来，很少回去付出 其实是根本没去，还会再回去吗？
    很多人，都很久没见
    偶尔，发一发简讯 就这样而已
    给想起/关心/想念的人
     
    新年要到了，今天第一次午餐两个小时 上班几乎半年咯
    与共事的两个他畅谈  我们三个是同一个“老大”，“老大”没在，小的造反，哈哈
    心情愉快，好像很久没有这种感觉了 兴奋，嘻嘻 =D
    回想…… 回去会有这种感觉吗？ 没答案
     
    回家过年咯，yeah！！！ 新年快乐~！
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    December 01

    有感而发

    近来……
    必须接触的人很多很多
    工作、慈济、旧同学……（开始害怕）
    从来不觉得与人交谈是如此困难
    想说话，说不出
    想聊天，没话题
    心里有着很多挣扎
    何时
    性格配上了“静” （静=闷）
    曾经
    班长拿自己没办法
    看身边的她
    看到以前的自己
    逃…　（只想逃）
    人事复杂
    只有一个他，和一个她
    够了吧？
    就这样，简单
    大大的他说：“要多于同事联络感情，别整天就只和电脑说话…”（压力）
    当晚旧同学聚会两小时
    一小时忍不住离开
    距离，无形的距离　（怕）
    回家，家里是另一个自己
    只剩一个，一个没有了　（打击＝改变？）
    再一个没有，就什么都没有了　（再次打击＝死了？）
    感恩伙伴、他和她　（心病终需心药医）
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    November 17

    給自己的一句話

    不要封閉自己。你要先愛別人，別人才會愛你。
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